Are You Serious?!

Are You Serious?!

Have you ever gotten a compliment from someone and it never really felt like the person was being serious with you? He or she may have been completely honest and looking to give you sincere praise, but for some reason, it never came across that way.

The reason for that could be because he or she never learned how to give an honest to goodness compliment, one that leaves the receiver feeling good.

The formula is simple and it can be used by anyone in any situation. Not only will you love the results you get, but you’ll love the way it makes people feel.

How to give a sincere compliment:

  • Be honest. The average person can distinguish between empty flattery and sincere appreciation. Give compliments only when you are legitimately awed and truly grateful.
  • Be specific. Nonspecific compliments like “you look nice” or “good job” can seem flat and insincere. Rather, make a comment on what you find specifically outstanding in this person’s appearance, or what in particular impressed you about the job.
  • Tell the person how he has absolutely affected you and your life. Providing actual examples shows your bona fide appreciation. For example, to embellish “you have a great sense of humor” you could say, “I was in a terrible mood until you made that joke. I laughed the rest of the afternoon.”
  • Ask a follow-up. Giving someone a compliment as a closed-end statement leaves the person with only one option: say “thank you.” Lead the person you complimented into conversation by asking questions. Instead try something like this: “Great job on that last project. You really had some innovative ideas, and you showed great leadership through the whole thing. Was it hard getting everyone on board with you?”
  • Don’t give a backhanded compliment. At all costs, please don’t qualify your compliment with anything that sounds negative. For instance, saying “this outfit’s much more flattering than what you usually wear” could actually be insulting to the person.

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